I Chose Contraceptive Implant against Breastfeeding Vacation
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I gave birth to my first, a boy. My mother-in-law informs me that I am now relieved
of all domestic chores and after the naming ceremony, they will excuse me to go
and stay with my mother to breastfeed my son. She said I should treat it as a
vacation and rest.
I
was shocked by the news and I wondered why would my mother-in-law think that I wanted
to go on vacation when I was still supposed to be on my honeymoon. My husband
and I have been married for one year and I am still very young and sexually
active so why do I have to stay away from my man? Boom! I started dripping in
cold sweats, my imagination running wild. Are they getting my husband another
woman? Did I offend my mother-in-law? Why do they want to get rid of me when I
am supposed to go through this postpartum journey with my husband? I started
pacing around the house unknowingly. Then the cry of my baby snapped me out of
my misery and I couldn’t wait for my husband to come home so that he could
clarify and provide answers to all my questions.
The
moment my husband got home and we exchanged greetings, I couldn’t hold it in
anymore. I burst into tears and asked him why he was sending me to my mother’s
place for a vacation I did not consent to. The poor guy was surprised at my
sudden outburst and asked me to calm down and explain everything to him in
detail so that he could understand what I was talking about.
After
repeating what his mother told me. He burst into laughter continuously for a few
seconds. He then took my hands and said, I am sorry my mother should have explained
it in detail to you due to your age and background. He said all the family
still practice the old method of birth spacing and to achieve that, his sisters-in-law
go to their mother’s place after giving birth to rest and to avoid being
pregnant while breastfeeding.
I
also burst into laughter and my husband’s face darkened and he looked at me
surprisingly. I told him that in this day and age, they allow their wives to go
to their parents in the name of birth spacing amid modern contraceptives. I
told my husband that we made the baby together and as parents, we are supposed
to go through the postpartum together. I am not going to burden my mother with
my baby because she has done enough to take care of me. I am not also going to
endure the sleepless nights of feeding and changing the baby’s diaper alone
when his father, my husband is alive and within reach. I informed my husband
that I prefer Implant to the breastfeeding vacation because he has to perform
his duties to me as my husband and I refuse to practice abstinence again while
I am married.
He
said his mother will not like the idea of me using Contraceptives and it may
create a rift between us. I told him that implants are not visible because it is
a flexible plastic rod about the size
of a matchstick that is placed under the skin of the upper arm. The implant
releases a low, steady dose of the hormone progestin. I told him if he did not tell his
mother or family, they wouldn’t know.
After
the naming ceremony, we inform my mother-in-law about my decision to stay with
my husband instead of going to my mother. I promised her that I would not get
pregnant because I would track my ovulation. A week later, I was done with my
postpartum bleeding and my husband closed from work, came home, and found me
praying. He went straight to the bathroom to freshen up and head to the
bedroom. I went inside to ask him if should set the table for lunch, he rushed
towards me, grabbed my waist, pulled me to him, and gave me a deep passionate
kiss. We stayed like that kissing for a few seconds, he stopped and said to me,
choosing implant over the Breastfeeding vacation is the best decision you have
ever made. We laugh and head to the bed to finish what we started with a
passionate kiss and the rest of the evening was a romantic frenzy.
Note: Contraceptive implants are effective,
long-term birth control. Benefits of the implant include:
A care provider can remove the implant anytime you decide it's not right
for you or you want to get pregnant. You'll need to replace it every three years.
But you won't have to worry about it every day or every month like other
methods. No need to pause sex or get your partner to agree to birth
control. Methods containing estrogen can raise the risk of forming blood clots.
So, the implant may be a better choice for you if you want a lower-risk option.
It allows a quick return to fertility. If you want to
get pregnant, you can start trying as soon as the implant is removed. But contraceptive
implants aren't right for everyone. Your care team might suggest another birth
control method if you have allergies to any parts of the implant, or a history of serious
blood clots, heart attack or stroke, Liver tumours, or
disease. A history of breast cancer, or if you might have breast cancer.
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